The work of grief is always difficult and complicated.
The grief associated with infertility, miscarriage, and infant loss is complicated because it is so often private and unacknowledged. The idea of “remembrance,” so often embraced by families and faith communities is irrelevant: the grief is not so much for the loss of what has been than for the loss of what should have been. And so it is often difficult to find the language required to shape a funeral service for an infant, or a service of grief and worship for those who have lost infants or lost pregnancies or are struggling with infertility.
Project Pomegranate provides resources to aid in planning these services, and to use in weekly worship as is appropriate. We invite you to think, especially, about how your community will handle worship on Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, and on during times when your entire faith community is reeling from this sort of loss. We also invite you to think, weekly, about how the structure of, and language used in, the services for your congregation impact those who are grieving privately.
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