Project Pomegranate is grateful to the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship for publishing this blog, Fertility Grief at Christmas: Waiting for the Baby Jesus, by Mary Elizabeth Hanchey.
These are helpful words as we encounter Christmas in community with those who face fertility grief.
“It must be amazing to be pregnant at Christmas!”
I remember well when a good friend, a minister actually, said this to me! I was 8 months pregnant with a second child following a miscarriage.
This friend wasn’t referring to being pregnant in the midst of the frivolity of lights and gift preparations – in fact, it is not, actually, amazing to be 8 months pregnant at a time when there is so much to be done.
He was, instead, acknowledging that as our faith community waited for the birth of the baby Jesus, I had pretty intimate knowledge of some of what Mary would have experienced. Though I never had to ride a donkey anywhere, much less across the state. I was also not a teenage mother. I had also not been visited by the Angel Gabriel. Or any other angel as far as I could tell.
But he was not incorrect. There was something amazing about being pregnant as we prepared for the coming of the Christ child; as we sang of the sweet baby Jesus asleep in the hay; as “For unto us a child is born, unto us, a son is given” blared in our little station wagon while I drove our two year old around from preschool to Target to church activities.
There is another reality, however…Read More.